1. Think about what a good death looks like to you
What is “a good death?” Are you surrounded by people you love? Are you at home? What thoughts bring you the most peace when you think about your death and dying moments?
2. Explore your options for body disposition and funeral options
There are COUNTLESS options for body disposition after death. We are lucky to live in a time where we are spoiled for choice. Dive in and explore your options, you can have this be as personalized to you as your life is. There is no wrong choice!
3. Talk to your loved ones about death and your wishes
Being open and honest about death while you are healthy helps alleviate the last-minute stress that can be felt when a death is occurring. Making people aware of your wishes and plans will help everyone feel like your choices and desires have been honored.
4. Write an advanced directive
It’s never too soon to get started on an advanced directive! You can and should update them yearly, or as your life changes. Not only is it practical, but it will help you take personal inventory of the things that matter most to you. You can see yourself grow and change as your death plan changes!
5. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable!
Modern western society has deemed death a taboo topic. Be prepared to meet some resistance and moments of uncomfortable silence. Starting these conversations can be hard and navigating them can be tricky. For a lot of people, death is unnerving, and they’d rather ignore the reality of our finite nature. We will all die someday, so stay the course and stay curious!
Death Doula, Lupe Tejada Diaz